During our one year, we were busy on an adventure in Costa Rica — so I didn’t take the time to reflect on our first year as husband & wife. So I was thinking I would do that now.
Here were my reflections after three weeks:
It’s fun to have a husband to plan life with. We’re talking about our future, what sort of things we might want to do. We don’t know what this year will look like, how we will serve in the church, what is in store for us professionally, what interesting places we will try to go to… but we’re figuring it all out slowly. We were at the bank this weekend & the very nice personal banker we were meeting with was asking us when we’ll be looking into a mortgage. Lots of our friends are having babies. We’re married. We feel so grown up — it’s pretty exciting. Tawni, our niece, was over having dinner one night & Patrick realized he is her uncle! We have in-laws!
So during the other 49 weeks of the year, things were pretty great too.
Four months into our marriage, Patrick quit his job & became a full-time freelancer. It took the first four months of our marriage for me to be okay with such a risky move. We prayed about it, I’m sure he prayed for me to trust him & it has been an incredible blessing. He has done a lot of amazing projects & has learned so much. We’re not sure if this will be a lifetime adventure, but we’re very thankful in this world of complete unpredictability that he has a passion for & talent in something he enjoys & can make a living doing…
Though the year was full of new exciting things, there were difficult things too. My father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease — which terrified me when I first found out. He’s had a great year, adjusting to his medicine & living essentially the same life with a few inconveniences. We found out a few months later that my mom had breast cancer & three biopsies & one week of intense radiation later, she is cancer free. Patrick’s aunt in Pennsylvania (who is not much older than Patrick & I) was also diagnosed with cancer & his grandparents both had trips to the hospital with serious heart problems. None of these things were easy, but we have had peace & comfort through all of it because of our great God. These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world. John 16:33
Some other interesting things happened. We became the proud parents of a beautiful yellow lab.Patrick has tracked our spending & forecasted our entire financial future — including when we will birth children. We watched every episode of Friends — That’s almost 90 hours of television — about 3 hours a week. I have learned how much Patrick likes to shop for computers & he has learned how much I like to shop for furniture… We both have started a very annoying habit — baby talk — because of our baby doggy. That morning routine I talked about three weeks into married life– where I woke up at 6 am to make a full breakfast & a fresh pot of coffee — only lasted for a total of six weeks.
We have definitely learned things about one another — and have had a lot of fun in the process. Sometimes I look at my red-headed husband & fantasize about how many freckled babies we will have — but before we get there we’re so thankful to have one another, to be growing closer together & learning how to glorify Jesus in our marriage.